Saturday, November 2, 2013

Birthing Experiences Here Versus India


The birthing experience I remember is the one of my nephew. In 2005, my sister went into labor while we were at church. She asked me to take her to the hospital, and we were there all night. After many hours of being by her side, she asked if I wanted to be in the delivery room. After saying yes, I got my camera ready to take some pictures. She began to have heart-wrenching contractions, and I was taking pictures. When they asked her to push, I was taking pictures. When she was fussing and asking me to put down the camera, I was taking pictures. When she was in pain, I felt sorry for her, but I was still taking pictures. I enjoyed this experience because; I had never seen a child come into the world. It made me smile and feel warm on the inside. When his head came out and I saw his pale face, I jumped with joy; I was the proudest aunt alive. This event taught me how to love, live, and how to respect those who have been through this type of pain. I chose this example because, I do not have children right now, and this event is one that truly describes bonding, nurturing, and love at its best. I will never forget how important I felt by being a part of something so great. My sister and I still laugh about all of the personal pictures I took of her that day.
Birth is something that is so meaningful; it allows you to feel something that is indescribable. Seeing a child being born is one of the best things you can experience in your life. Depending on the parent and the environment of the delivery, it can have a major impact on the development of the child. If it is a happy and healthy mother, the child’s development will foster; however, if the child is being born in an unsafe and unsanitary environment, the health and development of the child is at stake.
The region I chose to research is India; I looked long and hard and finally, I found a place that had the answers I was looking for. India has many practices related to birth. Most of the girls marry at a young age. When she becomes pregnant, foods that produce a lot of heat is avoided during the entire pregnancy. If a woman goes into labor, she is passive and follows everything the health care provider says. Medication and pain relievers are not used during the birthing process. Once the baby is delivered and the placenta is expelled, then the mother can find out the sex of her baby. In the U.S., many fathers are present in the delivery room; however, in India, there are no men present in the room with the mother. After giving birth, the mother and child recuperate for forty days and the mother is catered to each day. They provide the mother with warm oil massages and special foods to replenish the mother’s body. Boys are wanted over girls in India; therefore, if a woman has a girl, they feed the little girl less, and treat her poorly.
The birthing practices are totally different in India than in my example. My sister had me and her boyfriend in the labor and delivery room; but in India, only the older female family member can be present. In my example, my sister already knew the sex of her child; however, in India mothers cannot know the sex of the child until after the placenta is expelled. This is because they are afraid the mother will become upset if the baby is not a boy; it is believed that her emotions will prolong the process. My sister was able to receive pain medication during labor, but In India, medication is not permitted. In the U.S. many women are not catered to after delivery at home, and they do not have forty days to relax as the women do in India. In the U.S., most individuals do not care if they have a boy or a girl, however in India, girls are frowned upon and boys are praised. Overall, there are many differences and fewer similarities between the birthing practicing in my example than in India.
In my example, whether a girl or a boy was born, the birthing experience would have great impact on early healthy development and growth of the child because; both parents loved and cared for the child and they had great medical care during labor. They provided him with love, nutritious food, clothes, and shelter. In India, if a girl was born, her birthing experience would be the same as a boy, but when she is out of the hospital, she will receive none nutritious or very little food, very little education, and no respect throughout her life. The boys birthing experience is the same as the girl, and it would have a good impact on the development of the child, and the boy would have great developmental opportunities throughout life including nutritious food, a great education, respect, and love.
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8 comments:

  1. Lah-Lah,
    Your story about your nephew's birth is beautiful! What an exciting experience! I like your comment about having respect for those that have been through this type of pain. When one of my closest friends gave birth she had a very difficult time-let's just say her daughter refused to come all the way out-for hours and hours! I have never looked at her the same way. I have so much respect for her!

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    1. I know, it is impossible to look at a mother the same after giving birth; unless, she does not act like a mother.

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  2. Lah-Lah,
    I was laughing so hard about you taking pictures. I am surprised your camera made it out of the birthing room. I would have knocked it out of my sister's hand! The joy and the pain that exist at the same time is indescribable but you did such a beautiful job of putting it into words. A woman who has not had a child can understand with such depth, the experience and the feelings, is amazing. Thank you for sharing. Isn't it amazing some countries prefer one sex over the other? For them it is normal and to me it is sad. I need to put down my rose color glasses in learning about the global perspective. It is hard.
    Thank you for you wonderful, insightful and informative post.!
    Catherine

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    1. Yes it is sad when a county prefers one sex over the other. I know that we all have preferences but, it is a baby and we do not have a choice what will be born; unless, we use artificial means. They joy of not knowing what you are receiving is priceless.

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  3. Hello Lah-Lah,

    Thank You for sharing personal experiences on the birth of your nephew. From an aunt's perspective I can relate on the excitement of raising a child into this world. As we all know, it takes a village to raise a child, therefore, aunt and uncles should provide a stabilized environment. In the past, it was my belief that childbirth experiences was similar all over the world. Yet, my overall perception of childbirth completely changed with the dark existence of unsafe to non-quality care and limited medical supplies.

    Tanya Terrell

    Tanya Terrell

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    1. Yes, aunts and uncles are a vital part of a child's experience; I have been named by all of my many nieces and nephews as the most favorite aunt, that is pretty funny because, my mother was the favorite aunt in my family.
      I am also glad that we live in a community where we can receive medical attention and care when giving birth. It is sad to see the struggle all over the world.

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  4. Lah-Lah,
    What an awesome experience to be in the delivery room with your sister. The part where you kept taking picture no matter what put a smile on my face. Even though at the time I bet your sister wasn’t the happiest about it I bet she is happy you did now that the pain is over. It sounds like you are close with your sister and I bet you play an important role in your nephew’s life. You said you want kids of your own some day. Do you want a lot of kids?
    Your research on India is very interesting! I know that in some countries boys are preferred but I did not know they waited until the placenta is out to tell the mother. I think it is sad that the husband can not be in the room. I believe it is such an amazing opportunity for the dad to be a part of. Being catered to for forty days! Wow! I was surprised when reading this. It made me sad when I read your post about the girls not being fed or well taken care of. I would hope that the mothers would still take good care of their daughter even if that means hiding it from others. Thank you for your research!
    -Staci

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  5. Stacie,
    At the time, my sister hated me for taking pictures; but we laugh about it today. All of the ugly faces and non-flattering pictures created great memories. I have a great relationship with all of my nieces and nephews; my family is huge so there are too many to count right now. I do want children, maybe four.
    The research on India surprised me; I would have never guessed that girls would be mistreated because they are girls; talk about major discrimination.

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